You came to the café early because you knew you’d be nervous. You take out your phone to check your notifications. He said he’s on the way 5 minutes ago. You text your friend while you wait, hopefully calming your nerves. Nobody can blame you from being nervous – it’s your first time meeting someone offline.
With the rise of online dating apps, meeting someone new online has become an easy feat. But because it’s so easy, it could be hard to move the online relationship to real life. For one, you can’t Google when he said something you didn’t understand. You can’t take time to think about your response either. But with these tips, you’ll breeze through your first online meeting with an interesting stranger. You might even walk away from the date with the second date planned!
1. Take note of your online interactions before meeting someone offline
If your goal is to meet your Mr Right, you must have had meaningful conversations with them before deciding to meet them.
You might feel like a creep, but rereading some of the conversations that you’ve had helps you come up with things to talk about in your date. Especially if you’re an introvert, having a conversation fodder at hand will go a long way in dealing with awkward silences. Google is also your best friend if you want to come up with fresh topics. In addition, it will also help you calm your nerves since you’re mentally prepared for everything!
That said, a date is supposed to be a get-to-know-you session. Don’t forget to get out of your own head and be yourself. You’re here to discover new things about each other. So, relax and have fun!
#2 Be sure to have realistic expectations
It’s only natural to act differently in real life since we tend to act differently in different situations. So don’t expect that everything will be the same as online when you’re meeting someone offline. Cut your guy some slack. Don’t be disappointed if he talks less than his online character or if he’s a bit shorter than you thought.
Managing your expectation well will make you happier as well. Don’t feel like you have to go on a second date or if you have to fall in love with him from the get-go. Think of this as an opportunity to meet someone compatible.
#3 Tell a friend where you’ll be
There’s obviously a concern for “stranger danger” when you meet someone in real life for the first time. Even though you’ve clicked online, there’s always a possibility of your date being a creep in real life.
The smartest thing to do is to tell a friend where you’ll be. You don’t have to give your friends a live feed of your entire date while it’s ongoing. Just shoot them a text when you’re starting the date or moving to a new location.
It might be helpful to give the wait staff a head’s up as well. Many people might be a little embarrassed to tell a total stranger that they’re meeting an online stranger, but the wait staff can be your greatest ally if something happens to you. You don’t have to give them much detail either. Just tell them you’re meeting someone new and ask them to keep an eye on the dude.
We get it, meeting someone offline can be unnerving. But if you follow our tips and practice more, you’d be the the master of social interaction in no time!