Being single is definitely a blessing in some areas. You get to take some time out to love yourself and give yourself time to grow and be the amazing person that you are without compromising.
But for some reason, being single is often treated like a plague. Friends who are happily attached would seem to rub in your face all the time, innocently asking if you’re seeing anyone. Your parent might even take that extra step and casually name drop the son of the aunt of your next door neighbour who’s single.
There are some things that you don’t mind listening to, but after a while, it gets tiring. We totally get it. That’s why we’re here to help.
1. Why are you still single?
I guess if you knew that, you wouldn’t be single.
People ask that as a way to help you figure your singleness out, but the answer to this is highly personal and subjective. Maybe you’re single because you want to be. Or maybe you just haven’t found the right one. You might even be looking at the wrong places. Regardless of what the answer is, being asked this question makes a person feels like they’re doing something wrong. So, please, for the love of love, stop saying this.
2. You’re just too picky
We know you mean well, but calling us picky is just condescending. It somehow feels like we’re at the wrong because we have standards.
Dating can be really hard, especially if you don’t know how or where to meet new people. Dating apps definitely made the game easier, but when it comes down to it, a relationship is built on compatibility and chemistry. We can’t get hitched with just anyone; it has to be someone right for us. After all, being single is better than wasting time on the wrong person.
3. Ooh! My [insert friend’s name]’s brother is single too!
Thanks! Can we talk about something else now?
It could be a little annoying sometimes when our friends start playing matchmaker. We get that it’s completely well-intentioned. We might really appreciate it too if we actually know the other person! But if there’s nothing in common between both of us asides from the fact that we’re both single, we might as well just go on a blind date set up by our parents. At least then we know our parents will definitely be happy with our choice.
4. You must be so free! You don’t need to spend time on dates and stuff with your partner!
Not having a life partner doesn’t mean I don’t have a life.
In fact, I think single people are the busiest. Not only are we expected to pull extra weight at work because of the lack of family, but we might also be really active in our dating life. The only difference is that we get a lot more time for our friends, families, and hobbies.
So, for all you happily-attached people out there, we love you a lot and we’re happy that you’re happy. We’ll definitely love you more if you stop saying these things, though!