Meeting new people is always scary. First, there’s the where and the how. Then, there’s the socialising. What if they don’t like you? Or if there’s nothing in common to talk about? What if they’re boring?
I used to use Tinder to meet people. Although it was really efficient, I personally hate the idea of it. I’ve always ended up matching with sleazeballs who are either uninteresting, or just straight up creepy. Plus, I’ve always liked to meet people in person straightaway anyway. It’s way too late for me, but luckily, here are 4 kinds of events you can go to meet people who are actually interesting.
1. ‘Hangouts’ on Couchsurfing
Couchsurfing basically connects travellers to locals who have an empty spot in their house or couches for them to crash on.
One common misconception is that you can only use the Couchsurfing app if you either need a place to stay or have a place to offer. That’s not true at all! The ‘hangout’ function in the app allows you to meet up with travellers or other locals in the city. It could be quite fun if you’re into travelling and learning about new cultures in general. I’ve develop my own crew when I was living in Budapest just by using Couchsurfing. It’s definitely doable.
Most of the time, these ‘hangout’ events have descriptions in the event itself or on the title, so you can pick what you want to do. You can also check the participants list to see if you’re comfortable meeting them. If you hit it off with someone, you might be able to visit them in their country one day!
Meetup works in a similar way to Couchsurfing. The difference being, instead of meeting up with travellers you might never see again, you get to meet people who loves doing the same things as you!
So let’s say you’re interested in philosophy, you can join a philosophy meetup. If you’re interested in writing, you can attend co-writing sessions or workshops. If you don’t see your kin (don’t worry, it happens!), you can even start your own event and wait for people who are interested to show up!
Sometimes, all it takes is meeting up more frequently to make lifelong friends. If you go to enough of these, you’d soon find yourself in beautiful beginnings to beautiful friendships (or even more!).
I swear, this article is not a plug for our own events.
People tend to think too much into speed dating events, often branding it ‘the peak of desperation’. But let’s be real, if you’re already reading an article on where to meet people, you’re craving human connection. There’s no desperation in that either since humans are social creatures in nature. So, why not go to one that’s specifically made to match singles to one another?
Especially if you’re into new experiences, Bindup offers events that are a little out of the ordinary. For example, the theme for the January event is tapas and salsa, where you’d get to stuff your face with tapas and then work it out in a passionate salsa dance class. It’s worth giving a shot even if it’s just for the food and dancing!
4. Toastmasters Clubs
For the career-minded people out there, do you want to meet people AND improve your employability? Toastmasters Club is the place for you then.
There are Toastmaster clubs peppered all over Kuala Lumpur and Selangor. They aim to help improve public speaking skills, cultivate a mentor-mentee relationship and a lot more other skills that are set you apart from the rat race. Toastmasters clubs is also a great place to network and meet professionals from all kinds of different backgrounds with similar career goals. They do need a membership of 45USD per year, but if you’re really serious about self-development, they’ve got you covered.
Strangers are just friends you haven’t gotten to know. KL and Selangor, in particular, is not a difficult place to meet people. There are tons of events and activities going around the city that gives you plenty of opportunity to broaden your horizons. You’d just need to be a little brave and open minded to explore those options. Who knows? You might even walk away with your very own person!